How to Erase Difficult People — Self-Axis and Responsibility

Mitsu Emig
Oct 3
2 min read

In the previous post, I talked about “taking back the remote control of your emotions.”This time, here is the conclusion.

What does it mean to live with a self-axis?

To live with a self-axis means “to live your life without being swayed by others through your emotions.”But there is a trap here. Living with a self-axis also means “living with responsibility for your own life.”

When you continue a job you dislike

For example, let’s say you think, “I hate my company.”At the root of this is often the feeling of “I never really wanted to choose this job.”When you continue doing something you dislike, you need reasons to justify it.“My boss is awful.”“The human relationships don’t fit.”“I don’t like the way the work is done.”This is how “I hate this” and “I hate that” pile up.

Your choices and responsibility

But the basic premise is that no one forced you into your current job. Freedom of occupational choice is a fundamental human right. In other words, it was a choice you made yourself.That is why if you live your life by your own choices, you must also take responsibility for them.

The escape of blaming others

When people do not want to take responsibility, they tend to blame someone else.“My boss is the problem.”“My coworkers are the problem.”“The environment doesn’t fit.”Blaming others means, conversely, “I am not at fault.” At first glance, it may feel like protecting yourself.But in fact, the moment you think “I am not at fault,” you lose the ability to change anything. This is something often pointed out in psychology.Furthermore, thinking “It is not my fault” places you in the role of a victim.And in psychology, this victim mentality is said to be the very thing that robs people of their greatest power.

To take back your power

If you truly want to empower yourself, you need to let go of victim mentality.“I chose this, and that means I can also change it.”It is only when you recognize this that initiative and energy return to you.

Conclusion

Erasing difficult people does not mean eliminating them. It means not being swayed by emotions, taking responsibility for your choices, and releasing victim mentality.Only when these three come together can your true self-axis stand strong. Do not be controlled by difficult people. Instead, live your life by your own choices and give power back to yourself.That is where freedom and strength reside.

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